What was once called tough love now sounds more like emotional trauma.

Boomers didn’t grow up with safe spaces or check-ins about their feelings. They were told to toughen up, keep quiet, and push through. What many of them were taught to consider “character building” would send up serious red flags in a modern therapist’s office. Back then, emotional distress wasn’t something you processed—it was something you buried deep and hoped wouldn’t show up later in your relationships, career, or health. Spoiler: it always does.
While resilience is a real skill, enduring hardship without support isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a recipe for pain. A lot of what boomers endured shaped them, sure, but it also left invisible scars. The kind that generations after them are now trying to name, understand, and heal. Therapy language might sound soft to some, but it’s often just accurate. Today, we’re learning to see things like neglect, control, and chronic stress for what they are. And that means revisiting some of the so-called “life lessons” that weren’t lessons at all—just survival.